Episode 5: Transforming Your Relationship With Risk to Live a Life of Meaningful Impact – Post Pandemic Freedom Show

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Episode 5: Zooming out from the blind spots, we start to explore how these can get you to a place where you can have that big impact in life instead of just “playing not to lose.”

Joshua and Dr.Wayne explore more of the things we know and the things we don’t know. We’ll set the stage for achieving bigger and better things. And we’ll see how the blind spots play out in the context of our limited vision of the world.

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Welcome to the Post Pandemic Freedom Show brought to you by Bold Molders. I’m Dr. Wayne Buckhanan. And with me is …

Joshua Shafran. And I’m happy to be here today.

Yeah, it’s always good to get together and have these chats. So last time we were talking about, we continue the thought of the three blind spots, which I’m going to quiz myself in a minute. And then we got into the known and unknown and the combination of those things. And I think today we’re going to bring those together, correct.

Yeah, we also talked about the things that you know, that you don’t know. And the things that you the the known knowns and the things that you know, that you don’t know, and then the unknown unknowns, which is where all of the potential lies for us. And what I really would I think is valuable is to see how all of that comes together between the the blind spots and how it fits inside of the the unknown unknowns and, and why we’re struggling and the different things of the of that that fashion. So what do you you want to quiz yourself? First, or, or?

Let’s do that. And then we can show you or maybe while you’re going over to the slides, because I know you’ve got those queued up. So blindspot one is about where we have set as what we want the outcomes, the goals, what it is that we think we want in life. And the blind spot related to that is that it’s not necessarily things that we’ve chosen. It’s stuff that’s become unconscious conditioning, and just show —

Why do we want what we want? And did we — is it something that we would choose consciously, again? If it is, great. But oftentimes, why we want something or what we’ve chosen is not of our own making.

And generally speaking, as we get older, and we’ve have more weight on ourselves, it is those things that we allow ourselves to look for are more limited, that we stop dreaming is big, we start saying, “Well, if I could just do this, then I’d be happy.”

Rather than really going for something big huge, that would would would turn us inside out, we start to settle. And that becomes you know, a part of that the status quo. And of course, the status quo looks different for everybody. But we know when we’re settling, we know when we’re selling out on our own dreams and what that looks like for us.

And all we have to answer to is ourselves. Unfortunately, this blind spot makes us blind to the fact that we’re not that we think we have to answer to everything on the outside world, we think we have to live up to everybody else’s expectations, what it’s supposed to be how it’s supposed to look all of those things. And so that’s all encompassed in that first blind spot.

Okay, and you had a phrasing that you use this time that I hadn’t heard before, that really jumped out at me is a really good summary is why do we want what we want sort of approach here, like, oh, wait, where did this come from this thing that I say I want? Is it really what I want? Or is it what somebody else has wanted, and I picked up on that? So that’s the first blind spot.

And that ties into the second one too, by the way, what you just summarized there ties into really all the blind spots.

Okay? So blind spot two and then you can unpack, after I do my quiz, what you mean by how this that idea ties in there. I’m not seeing it yet. And I believe you that it is there, I’m just “I want I want to hear it, but I also want to quiz first,” so. Second blind spot is where I currently am. And the fact that I may be either lying to myself or delusioned or just inaccurate in my assessment of where I’m at. And so that blind spot is the difference between where I say I’m at and where I actually am at.

Right. Where I where I am perceiving that I’m at where I’m interpreting what I’m what I’m it’s usually a misinterpretation.

Have you ever had an experience where you were absolutely positive? That something was the way it was? I was just thinking about this this morning. There was a time where my uncle I was I must have been about I don’t know, maybe 1112 years old, and my uncle was working on a motorcycle to try to get it up and running and working again. And I didn’t know much about working on anything mechanical at the times, but I was eager to learn because I was eager to ride on the back of it when he got it running again.

And I said to him, you know, like, there was something with the the carburetor or the choke or something. And I was positive, that the gas was turned to a certain thing. And I said, I’m absolutely remember, I’ve got a great memory. I know for a fact I’m absolutely 100% sure that this was the way that I was saying it was. And so.

But he decided that he wanted to check in on it again. And sure enough, I totally misremembered it as to something that had no bearing whatsoever. So that’s one thing. And then I mean, what he said to me is, is, that’s exact, when you’re so sure of something that you are unwilling to look at it, then you get blinders on. And that really stuck with me, obviously, since, you know, like, that was when I was 10 years old. So that was 45 years ago, that that I went through that experience. So it’s, it’s like that.

But the thing is, is that when we when we get stuck in our what we perceive to be absolute truth, absolute reality, and we’re unwilling to look at anything else. That’s what keeps us stuck.

Because we’re going for something whether we’re going for big goals, or whether we’re going for those smaller goals that that whatever it is, but we’re frustrated, the reason we’re frustrated is that we’re we’re stuck in that No Man’s Land, we’re doing a lot of energy. But what we’re, we’re where we’re starting from, or what we’re working with is completely different than what it is, and in in a future episode, when we get into the zero factor stuff, and that’s when it’ll start to become really crystal clear. What we’re talking about here and just coming at it from a different angle.

Okay, so blind spot one is where we think we want to go. Blind spot two is where we think we are. And then blind spot three — you gave me some hints as you were talking there, reminders — is the difference between where we’ve set out to be and where we really could be and, and are called the being, and without any emotional stigma ought to be, right, just like, oh, look, you could be way out here doing these spectacular things, rather than settling for this much narrower version of outcomes.

Yes, for sure. And the thing that I that just gives me goosebumps, and I mean, literally I get full body chills thinking about it is that we are capable of so much more, the possibilities are so much greater than we allow ourselves to even wrap our brain around. And there’s another quote or, or cliche, whatever that, you know, we’re not, we’re not scared of being too little, we’re scared of our greatness of who you know the potential. And that’s so true because we’re capable of so many more things, but we’ve limited ourselves because of that first blind spot. And in the conditioning, and that we’ve lived with that we’ve stopped dreaming, we’ve we’ve neutered our vision, we’ve neutered our dreams, because it hurts to have hope, and then have those hopes dashed. But it’s the act of being fearful of having the being burned again and being hurt again, that’s actually causing us to stay stuck and frustrated and overwhelmed. And all of the things that we’re dealing with in the the post pandemic world that we’re struggling with. And again, this is why it’s so much more pronounced because all of these things are becoming more in our face. Without us. We can’t ignore it as well as we could before the pandemic. So all of these three major areas of blind spots are coming back to roost, so to speak.

And you said that these layer in with the known knowns, the known unknowns and the unknown unknowns, do you want to show us that? Yeah, love visual on that. Okay, I know we’ve we’ve talked around the edges of that before. So

I’m happy to and one thing that I just want to point out here is, you know, notice the continued making the unconscious conscious. That’s Jung’s quote of “until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you’ll call it fate.”

And at the end of the day, living the life that you want to live making the impact that You want to make going for those big, unprecedented bigger Future Type goals, the bold molder goals, that you’re capable of embracing those bigger things that are so much more possibilities for you. At the end of the day, everything comes down to the getting the right tools and resources, and developing those capabilities and abilities to be able to on your terms, see what was once unconscious and make that unconscious conscious. So at the end of the day, that it’s really as complicated as that. And as simple as that. And everything that we’re working on, whether it’s from the NLP side or personal development side is to help us or hypnosis side whatever, or my unique approach to these things are to do just that, to give you the tools and resources to build those capabilities and to gain mastery over making the unconscious conscious. So while it’s continued now in this realm, I think that what we’re going to wind up with is, every single episode, every single resource every single time relates to this in some way, shape form or another until you gain mastery over it. And until you can condition yourself with intention with that you consciously chose the goal is to make the choices to make it a habit that you don’t have to think about anymore, just like breathing, talking, walking, assuming that you can do all those things without conscious effort these days is to be able to pick what you want to condition into yourself and make it unconscious again, but because of the the awareness that you’ve now done it with conscious intent behind it. Does that make sense? Does. All right, so here’s an overlay of everything. And I’ll zoom in on it. But the two major concepts that we were talking about, these are the three areas where the blue or the purplish area, and we know it’s always constantly expanding, and it’s going out here, this is the z the things that we don’t even know that we don’t know, then within this, it’s it’s the the this area here and this area here, then we’ve got the next one down, which is the wise or the the known unknowns, the things that we know that we don’t know. And then we’ve got right here in the center, the things that we know that we know, or that we believe that we know are our current interpretation. And now let’s zoom in. Is there anything? Before we do that that you want to ask covered? Bring out clear?

No, I’m just going I want to have those goalposts. Let’s make sure that my understanding of the three blind spots actually lines up with what we got drawn here. I think I got what I got.

Okay, so let’s zoom in here and make sure that it’s really there. So tell me what you think of that. And I’ll draw it in based upon what you tell me.

Yeah, so I’m hearing that the, just to the right of that center.is Where it says Fred’s filtered future goals. That’s where blind spot one shows up.

This right here. Yeah, yep, that’s number one.

Okay. And then going the other side of that central dot, we’ve got the similar white line, but going over to that green cluster of lines. So that’s where blind spot two is going between threads, filter and truth. And of our current reality, and that conscious, unfiltered awareness, of current situation, the objective reality that we’re really at.

Right, right. So and then the third blind spot?

That’s gonna be between number one and the green on the right. If I am correct, you’re doing your filter and future goals and that Bold Molder Goal vision?

Yep. Got it. Okay, so that’s the overlay. Now let’s talk about this in conjunction with the known unknowns because we’re, what I call Fred stories, these are Fred filtered goals right here. What we believe is we’re capable of that’s what’s going on because of our past experiences. Because of the circumstances of our life. We’ve We’ve settled for a whole lot less over here, in between where we think we are. And where we think we want to get to is our known zone or our comfort zone, or the zone of what we believe to be familiar and a little bit of the unknown, or the known unknowns, the things that we know that we don’t know. And so in theory, it should be really easy to go from where we believe we are to where we We believe that we want to get to, it should be really easy. In fact, that’s why it’s more frustrating for us because we don’t know why we’re not there yet. Right? Because we know that we’re capable of, because it’s only a little bit outside of our comfort zone. On either side, it’s only a little bit different. And it’s only a little bit into the things. But it’s even if we’re comfortable in the stuff that we know that we haven’t yet learned about whatever, right? So we’re okay, stretching a little bit here and a little bit here. And everything in between here, by the way, is still known as the status quo. So it’s still plus or minus, you’re gonna get what you always gotten, plus or minus a little bit and the plus or minus is right here, plus or minus, plus or minus, in between the two, right? Because you’re, you’re just willing to dip your feet a little bit into stuff that you don’t know that you don’t know, you’re willing to feel a little uncomfortable or a little stupid. But it’s because it’s in service of a greater good, and you know, it’s going to help you get here. The problem is, as we discussed in a previous episode is that we’re doing a lot of this, we’re doing a lot of back and forth a lot of all of this, oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God, and we’re working really, really hard. And each time we do this, and we don’t get the results, we were we’re wandering around in here, and we’re pissed off, or we’re upset or we’re overwhelmed, or whatever our pattern is for us is that it adds more weight to the stories. And now we make up a new story about why we’re here. See, I’m just not destined to be able to do this, I’m just not smart enough, I’m just not good enough, or whatever is the the particular story or pattern that we have on that topic. We enhance it. And we drive it further deeper into our unconsciousness, and we condition it, but it’s conditioned in a negative way that is not serving us that’s not bringing us any closer to where we want to be. Because we have yet to go out here and venture into these areas that is really scary because it’s it’s in the area of unknown unknowns. And it’s real scary over here, because we don’t even know that, you know, it scares the shit out of us because we really could be doing so much more and we sense that and then we run running hide from it because we want to go back to at least the stuff that we know that we don’t know. Right? And and we want to live here because it’s comfortable. But not only it’s comfortable. I don’t like necessarily the the the cliche of comfort zone so much as it’s what you’re familiar with what you’ve grown accustomed to. And as we also talked about in a previous episode, we’ve gotten real good at tolerating stuff, we’ve numbed ourselves out, we’ve gotten really good calluses, so that we can tolerate being stuck here, we can tolerate the back and forth, we can tolerate going, you know, all the zigzagging in the tic tac and all of this extra energy. We can tolerate it. Because if we throw our hands up and go, it just that’s just the way it is. You know, I don’t have a choice in the matter.

Yeah, what’s coming up for me is that looking at blind spot, one kind of feels like man, okay, great. I it’s good to do that personally to say, Am I really setting these goals? Are they mine or not? Right, so it’s more releasing things that aren’t mine. But for me, the meat seems to be closing that gap for blind spot number two, like you know, I have to expand the known and get much better at unfiltered thing through Fred or whomever you know, all these other filters that are going on that and all the way back to the making that unconscious conscious.

Well, that’s where the the unconscious lives. Right here in the light purple circle. All of this is the unconscious, we’re unconsciously aware of it. Now some of it serves us like over here and brings us over. But the goal of all of this is to expand out the knowns known zone zone into filtering it into here, and so that this grows bigger. But notice that every time you expand it, so does this, this one grows bigger, this one grows bigger, this one grows bigger. So you’re growing, you’re expanding, but there’s always going to be elements as you expand that because it’s going to expand with you unless you have already been to where you want to go. You’re it’s gonna be a part of that. And so is this going to always be X Manding, right. So all of this is going to expand to because the universe is always expanding. It’s never constrictive. It’s always expanding and growing, if you try to stay still, which is what we’re trying to do when we stay in this area here, and we get, you know, stuck in that zone, then everything’s expanding around us. And by definition, then we’re moving backwards, because we’re trying to say, we’re trying to say to the universe that is expanding, we’re trying to say to all of this, no, no, I’m gonna hold all of this, and I’m going to make you static in this one spot. And it’s impossible to do. We’re not that strong.

Yeah, I’m gonna build this snowman and protect it through the summer. Like, no, that’s not how that works. Okay, so the other thing that came up for me is this is visual of everything from number one to the right, like number one, blind spot number one is really, am I climbing the right mountain? Like, yay, I chose this mountain rather than somebody saying you should go up that mountain. Really, okay. But I see this whole set of mountain ranges off into the clouds that are beyond that first mountain that I chose to climb. And so I can hear, right, this idea that you’re never really gaining ground. Like that’s one way we can interpret everything expanding. Like, even if I expand my knowns and unknown, known unknowns, like I can make those inner circles bigger. But am I really gaining if the whole thing’s expanding? And there’s still all that stuff out there that I don’t even know. I don’t know. I think that the exciting part for me is going you know, with the word no showing up again, the idea that no, there’s so that just really means there’s so much more to explore. And there are adventures to be had that I haven’t even come up with that are going to be so much bigger and better than what I can see. When I look at blind spot number one,

for sure. For sure. There’s there’s no question about it. The problem with this metaphor, where this metaphor breaks down, is that it implies a linear journey from point A to point B. So the first question, and I love it, because I love that you said this phrase because I use this exact thing, am I climbing the right mountain? That is the key to it be and you know that you’re climbing the right mountain, if it’s right for you, if if the act of climbing is fulfilling, if you’re you know, part of it, but it is not this linear journey of, you know, moving from this point to this point, and then you’re done. It’s it’s a 3d 4d holographic universe of of the ecosystem is constantly moving and expanding. So don’t get into the habit of just thinking about this, this is bad. And this is good. Or I’m moving from this point to this point where aboard this is the summit of the right mountain over here. Because as you do this, who you become in the journey of doing this is what informs which new mountains, you’re going to go to what you’re going to create, where it’s going to go, what’s going to what you’re going to see as new possibilities that you couldn’t see, when you know, once you get beyond this, and you get just to the outer edge of this, for example, you’re going to see all sorts of new possibilities that you couldn’t see before, that are going to give you the hope and the ability to be able to create things in a brand new way. And that is in it of itself. extremely gratifying, extremely fulfilling. And you’re honoring yourself by making that journey by by going through it. So in the previous episode, where you talked about this being a lot of work going from here to here.

But it’s worth it.

Yeah, but it’s worth it’s still implies it’s drudgery.

Now. Sure, and that’s an interesting projection. Not all of it is drudgery, even when it’s hard work, right i I’m gonna go ice skating later, and I’m gonna put in the work. I’m gonna love every second up and it’s not any less work. In fact, I’m going to be doing more work out on my eyes than most other people are. But I love it. And so yeah, drudgery. Is love to me. There are no separate me to

do I get do I get tired when I’m doing that when I’m doing this work. When I’m going from here to here. Yes, I get tired. But the act of doing it fills me with energy and excitement and optimism and the act of doing it even though I might get wiped out. I can go for a much longer time going on this journey and tick tacking my way across that then I can when I’m stuck in, you know the drudgery of the status quo and just not really challenging myself and staying like that. To me is just

like running on the treadmill. Not my thing. So yeah, yeah,

yeah, and I don’t mean to, to put it in terms of like, project my stuff onto you. But there’s an element that when people look at this, that what I feel and maybe I’m maybe it is a projection on my part, but what I feel when you talk about this being like a lot of work, and oh my god, it’s a lot of work, I don’t want to do that, but I’d want to do it. But I don’t want to do it, like when you’re just stuck there is that there’s still judgement about like, I’m not, I’m not making enough progress fast enough. And I’m not where I should be. Because by now, and all of that, all of the stories that are doing that, and that’s the stuff that I don’t believe is serving us when we have those conversations with ourselves. So that’s when I try to reframe that conversation. And the instant that I see this for what it is, that it’s not good or bad, the spot between the second blind spot is not good or bad, says nothing about me. So therefore, it’s not a lot of work. It’s not, you know, I mean, unless I say it is, it’s, it doesn’t mean anything. And so I could very easily then replace that once I truly see that see it for what it is. And I see it for the objective reality, that that and I’m interpretating it from at least from my position, as accurately as I can. And I can see that as truthfully without the juice without attachment without putting anything on it and have it define me or have it say something or having to have to have it look a certain way. Because the the thing that we get stuck with is that we get so attached to our identity being that we are here, that we’re unwilling to see the truth and in the same thing we get so attached to this is what I’ve got to have happen. And it’s got to look a certain way, it’s got to perform in a certain way. So the way that it wound up being is that if it wasn’t what it was determined to be that in my head, then it was everything else sucked. And it wasn’t like like the experience couldn’t be like, wait a minute, seemed different. It didn’t look, but could it be even better? No, because I’m so attached to it looking a certain way.

And there’s a phrase, the phrase that I love from the NLP side of thing. Disappointment requires adequate planning. Yeah, yeah,

I love it. I have not heard that before. But I love it, too. Thank you.

So the drawing you’ve got right now with the extra lines is really nice, because it points out that if you think you’re starting at that left white line, just outside the known zone, and are so focused on I got to go towards the white line on the right. Right, I’m crossing that known zone, that’s all the focus is going that direction, which we got to get everything here, right? That direction. You, you you potentially fall into the trap of anything that’s actually that blue line that goes across the way that you, right, we want to go this way automatically. But if we realize no, there is the first step is going from where we think we are to where we really are. And so that first leg of the journey is going in what feels like the exact opposite way of where we really want to be going.

And really what it is it’s pushing you in further into the area of the the known unknowns, and then really into this the skinny branches of being scared shitless that I’m out here. And man, this is really uncomfortable. I don’t know how gravity operates here. I don’t know what the rules are. I don’t know what any of this is. And that’s scary. Until you realize that the reason why it’s scary is because we made up a story about it. And we decided to believe that story. We have thoughts about it, we have judgments about it, we have attachments about it and having to look a certain way. And that’s another thing is that we get stuck zigzagging back and forth here and in between the two here because we believe that where we are is rock solid, we’re attached to that looking a certain way and believing a certain way and we’re attached to it. And we’re unwilling to have it be anything different, even though it’s not serving us necessarily. So we’re we were pinging back and forth like a good game of Pong. And we’re we’re banging our heads into this. And it’s getting old fast because we’re very much aware each time we do that, that we’re unhappy, you know, we may be accomplishing these goals and we’re stacking up the the achievements One after the other. But they’re not fulfilling, they’re not meaningful there. And we’re still really, really uptight, pissed off frustrated, whatever you whatever is your pattern. And the more that we do that the more that we add, and we start, we start beating ourselves up and we start to reinforce the wrong can unconscious conditioning. And it drives a deeper and it makes it even harder to fight against that stuff. And if you’ve ever experienced in life where you used to be happy, go lucky and be able to create the things that you want to create pretty easily and, and it was like no big whoop. And then now all of a sudden, creating the goals and going for the things you want to go are getting harder and harder and harder. And you like what happened, I used to be able to be accountable, I used to be able to stay focused, I used to be able to, you know, and now all of a sudden I can’t, it’s because of all this stuff is built up on us. And we’ve negatively conditioned the wrong the wrong sides of the equation based upon our past experiences. And it’s again, it’s like blowing bubbles on top of bubbles on top of bubbles.

I’m reminded of going on walks outside with the kids and it’s like, Oh, we found a rock here carry this for me. Oh, I found another rock Ooh, look, let’s take this boulder. I’m like, stop it. But eventually you’re like, I can’t handle anymore. I’ve got all these rocks. They’re not actually mine. They’re not actually useful. But I’ve been carrying them this whole trip. And yeah, it gets harder and harder as you go.

But your kids are like, yeah, they’re free and fancy, right? You’re carrying all the weight.

Exactly. It’s somebody else’s burden that I’ve taken on, right. And so we get better at saying Fine, I’ll make a backpack and I’ll start carrying all the random rocks in the backpack, forgetting that at the end of the trip, the kids don’t care anymore, or we put them in the bathroom on the sink or you know, whatever the rocks end up. Because we do have

to say you got to carry yourself. So make sure that it’s really what you want.

Yeah, yeah. The other thing that came up here is, in the same way that we realized earlier that all of what we’re doing is making the unconscious conscious. I wonder if most of the work that we’re putting together and and the techniques and all the the support that we’ve got in place for folks is really closing blind spot to and everything else kind of naturally takes over at that point. So that’s the thesis. We’ll we’ll see how that works out over time. But

I think so. And it could be a hierarchy where there’s a foundational one that really leaves the other. The reason why I started with one personally in explaining this is that it becomes real easy to talk about that first. Yes, because we’ve become very aware of why Yeah, why do I want that? Like, how did I decide that, that winning this running this race and having to win this race is important to me? And that it was going to be meaningful to me? How did I How did that happen? And

100% agree that that’s low hanging fruit, that’s a beautiful place to start. I wonder if almost all the juice is in closing that gap on blind spot too. And guess what, then we can open up? Once we’ve gotten out of that comfort zone or the known zone and have started peeling off the layers of Fred stories. I do wonder if the closer we get to where we really are. Guess what it unlocks blind spot three.

I think I mean, all of this zone right here, which is, by the way, like this accounts for maybe fractional fraction, I mean, like point 00000000000000. To Infinity, almost one of all that is right? That’s what this but yet we have the because this is us, this is where we live, it’s everything to us, right? But really all of it is in here, whether we’re talking about this side of it, or this side of it, it’s the same, right? It gets the unknown unknowns, unknown, unknown. So it’s really one blind spot, which is this. And then everything else gets germinated from that and a piece of that if we split it down, like into yin and yang or whatever, a piece of that is so much more as possible. And a piece of that is that where we are how we’ve been playing or what we’ve been defining ourselves as there’s been so much different than then we’ve been playing such a smaller game. So I mean, if you think about it, in terms of this being like not a journey linearly, but like Almost like a zooming in. And we’ve been playing such a small game, and believing that we’re so small here, but this is really who we are and what we’re capable of, if we can embrace that, then the reality is that we don’t have to stay playing by the rules that have gotten us these results. We can play by the rules over here, we can play by the you know, it’s really all the same stuff. But yeah, being attacked, being attached to threes, these these breaks it down for me and in a logical way. But again, it does imply a linear progression. So

I do wonder if it’s just me projecting what, you know, like, oh, okay, the better I know, myself, the rest of this stuff will take care of itself. For me personally, and that’s my own journey that I’m going huh? Is that true? For everybody? I don’t know, let’s find out.

Well, I mean, know thyself, I think is is key. But a piece of Know thyself is to recognize the stuff that you don’t know that you don’t know. And be okay with that and redefine your relationship with risk. Because it doesn’t have to feel risky to venture here. To venture here, it doesn’t have to feel risky, it only feels dangerous, or risky, or whatever we’ve chose chosen the words for it, because of what we’ve decided it be, but we can change our relationship with that.

Yeah, beyond here lies dragons. And then, you know, when we realize the dragons are actually helping us, then it’s a whole different beast.

Yeah, or the dragons don’t exist, it’s something that we made up. Because we want the conflict or the friction, you know,

gives us a convenient excuse to play small and not fail big like we might do if we venture

out. And then there’s the other school of thought with, you know, you need contrast, like, you know, with weightlifting, you need to be able to burn your muscles to do the weightlifting and to rip them apart to be able to regenerate and grow and have strength training. I suppose there’s a certain amount of truth to that. But it doesn’t have to be that way. For this, you don’t have to have conflict, drama, all of the the contrast is not necessary. To do that. We’ve got enough of it already in the act of unwinding, it can serve us. Yeah. And we’ll be talking about that in a future episode.

So what do we do as action item from looking at this chart? I mean, we kind of already hinted at it right, is start looking at those blind spots. If you did the exercise before the blind spots, go look at your list and think about things from the bigger perspective that we have now. And, and you know, any of the insights that you had today, just keep applying them back there. Yeah, what else comes up for you,

I think, to simplify it and chunk it down, you know, based upon what you were saying, like, pick one of the three blind spots that resonates for you, in in this case, Wayne wants to examine the second one, as I’ve defined it, now, I’m just defining it to, to chunk it down to make it easier, but so if that resonates with, like, examine that, you know, you don’t have to do all of this to take, take what makes sense for you, but look at it, and ask yourself objectively, if you’re playing a smaller game, and or how you’re playing smaller game, because I can promise you that we all play a smaller game than we’re capable of, as big a game as we may be playing at certain times. And as as creative and as as powerful as we choose to be, we could always be more and and expand even greater. So for whatever it is for you, without putting judgment on it, just examine that and see, you know, look at it because the act of just examining it gives you the you know, is that is making the unconscious conscious. It doesn’t have to be scary. It doesn’t have to be a big whoop. The act of of just simply examining it objectively looking at it, like you’re watching yourself in a movie, and a past experience. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.

And I know that we you asked me to write up some of this in that post pandemic abundance playbook. And so that’s another good place people can get in there and do the exercises in there and start to build that muscle of noticing. For sure how we’re you know, saying,

Yeah, I can’t recommend it strongly enough. It’s a 28 page download from Gumroad. If you go to post pandemic abundance.com it’ll take you right to the Gumroad download area. Um, it’s a 28 page report that is, Well, besides the actual blueprint and kind of the worksheets that you can, you can follow along with and apply to your specific thing. It’s also a fun journey into Wayne’s experience, from his point of view, and I think you’ll find it’s, it’s a fun read, in addition to giving you the the, the, the, well, a playbook on how to actually step by step put this into living it because it’s, you know, we have to move it from your head into your heart, to be able to actually live it. And it’s a great reinforcement tool, and every time that we do an episode of this, and we talked about making the unconscious conscious, and we go deeper, we go into different tools. And then if you will even just go back to the playbook again. From that standpoint, I think you’ll find that it hits you in completely different ways in more powerful ways, even though he hasn’t snuck in and rewritten it on you. It’s the same report. But I think you’ll feel like each time you go through it from it, you’ve changed, you’ve grown, you’ve gone through that expansion. And so it’s different for you at that point in time. And it’s no, I mean, I’m biased, but I think it’s awesome.

Remember, to engage and comments, give us you know, comments, questions, kudos, get all that stuff out there. That we’re having that two way conversation. So yeah,

sure. And on that note, wait.